Sleeping or not sleeping

I touched on the subject of sleep in my last post from a year ago, I can’t remember exactly what happened back then, but i’ll recap as far as I can.

He did eventually drop his 2 naps a day, and then went to morning naps for about 2-3 hours then we would have the afternoon to play.  I found this lovely and annoying for a few reasons.  Bertie woke up increasingly early between 5 and 6am most days. Back then he couldn’t get past 9am without crashing and wanting to nap.  But that then didn’t leave a lot of things to do in the afternoon as most baby and toddler groups were in the morning.  This has now changed and he has a nap around 11am/12pm depending if we are out.

Looking back I think it was quite a difficult time, I was struggling, and I hate to admit it, but I was.  I couldn’t for the life of me get him to sleep in his bed at nap times, and gone had the time of him falling asleep in my arms with his milk on the sofa – I think it happened rarely.  It was his 1 year review that the Health Visitor advised I change his routine at bedtime to help with his daytime nap as I was strapping him in his pram and rocking him with soft music playing.  As much as I wanted to change his routine I didn’t take her advice of totally changing everything, I think we just tweaked a few things. 

I was talking to a friend one night when she was explaining to me that it takes around 3 days to change a routine and for it to stick.  She explained to me what she did with her own daughter, and thought it was great. However I still didn’t change anything. Until one night when things got really bad, Bertie just wouldn’t settle. We would normally spend up to 45 minutes putting him to bed as we would give him his milk and rock him to sleep whilst playing music and singing to him softly. It was that night I decided the next day we would change the way we do things.

We bath him as usual, he loves bath time, always splashing and playing.  Then we get dried and into pyjamas and then we turn off the lights, leaving the hall light on and the door open enough to read him a bedtime story.  Currently he still sits on one of our laps then once he’s finished his milk we put him to bed and say good night and tell him we love him. 

The first night he cried for 17 minutes, I remember this because it was heartbreaking sitting on the stairs outside his room listening, it wasn’t a hurtful cry, but a frustrated cry otherwise of course one of us would have gone to see him.  The next night it was less and the 3rd night was barely non-existent.  Now, 8 months down the road, he mostly is a dream at bedtimes and nap times, of course we have bad days/nights – what parent doesn’t?

Twice now he has point blank refused a nap in the day, this worries me as I know he isn’t quite ready to drop the nap yet, and neither am I!

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Back to the Beginning

In a previous post about my little Mr Farty Pants, I touched on the subject that he has always struggled to poop.  This got increasingly worse as time went on and at around 9 months old, things changed for the worse.

He wouldn’t poop for days on end and when he did try to go he would stand bolt upright and tense his whole little body and scream in agony.  I tried everything to help him: leg exercises; trying to sit him with his knees up on my lap; feed him apricots, prunes, raisins; and after a few weeks of these the effects started wear off.

I got increasingly worried and took him the GP to yet again be told that it was normal, but to help ease the pain, he give him lactulose.  Again, this only worked for a short time. He was then prescribed a powder medicine called Movicol, and I was to give him half a sachet every morning.  This did help again for a while. 

It wasn’t until just after he turned 1 years old that I finally got referred to a paediatrician and he advised that we increase the Movicol to 2 sachets every morning and this would be messy, but we needed to clear him out.  We then went back after a month or two, can’t quite remember, and the Doctor said that constipation in children was quite common and only 1 in so many children have it severely.  He gave us a treatment plan on how to wean Bertie off the Movicol. 

Within a week of being off of Movicol he went back to square one, it’s like we had done nothing to help at all.  I put him back on one sachet a day until his next appointment in a few weeks time. 

The Doctor said that he could feel a “series of boulders” in his tummy, which were “quite hard”. He told me to up his Movicol again to 3 sachets a day for a few days and then back down 2 a day.  He again told me that it was common for children to be constipated, but this time I said but what if my baby is that one that is different?.  The Doctor said there wasn’t a lot that cold be done till he was 2 years old, so we are booked in for some blood tests in January before our next appointment.  He is 2 in early February so it’s close enough. 

So, for the foreseeable future, he has to have 2 sachets every morning.  We have also been assigned a community Nurse to help out with a few things before our appointment in January as he likes to refuse food a lot too. 

On a happy note, in spite of this ‘little issue’ he seems to be growing well and following his centile for height and weight. 

About Me and My Blog

I’m not great at writing or blogging, I haven’t been able to keep one going before.  So I hope I manage to keep this one going.

When I became a mummy (just over a month ago) I started to think that I wanted to share my views on pregnancy, birth and the ups and downs that come with becoming a parent for the first time or even if it’s the second or third time.

I love birth stories and before I had my baby I read a lot of blogs about it.  I will be posting my birth story and I have a couple of friends that have kindly said they would like to post theirs too.

So, here goes nothing, I hope you enjoy my babbling.